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21/11/2017 1 Comment Old FriendsRecently an old friend contacted me through Facebook. We have been friends there for a while, but haven't actually interacted much. She wrote to tell me that her partner had recently started transitioning. Things seem to be going well for them which makes me very happy. They live near one of my dearest friends too, so I got them in contact with each other. I think they will all like each other.
That got me thinking about my relationship with my friend. This was about 30 years ago. We used to hang out and sew belly dance costumes together. It was so much fun! I pretended that the ones I was making were for her to wear, but secretly, they were for me. There was no way I could tell her that at the time. I still have the costume I finished, but I have sadly out grown it. Thinking back, I think this was the first time that I felt like I had a "girlfriend". Not someone I was dating, but another woman that was a joy to hang out with. Of course I wasn't out as a woman at the time, but that was exactly the relationship I so desperately wanted in my life. When you are a "guy", that sort of relationship just isn't attainable. The comments I got from my male friends at the time made no sense to me. Not one of them believed that I didn't want more than that. I just didn't comprehend what they meant. Why can't I have women friends that I don't want to sleep with? Anyway, I am happy to have reconnected with my old friend and hope we can actually meet again in the real world at some point in the not to distant future!
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tbird
21/11/2017 12:24:31 pm
Aw, thanks! That was my first "sewing circle." I had a solid group of friends in Kansas, years later, with whom I made costumes. Sunday afternoon tea and sequins.
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